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Procrastination tango...

Adopt one today!


Still not getting LJ-comments by mail. But it looks like it's a known problem and according to LJ it should be getting better... soon... >.>


Say... do you do dance the procrastination tango, too?

I sent off a mail to the person who handles my accounts at the bank, more or less asking for a favor. He wrote back. I can see the mail sitting in my inbox.

But I'm not touching it.

I keep dancing around it, reading the ones above and below that one. But I'm not opening that bank mail. Because I'm not sure what the response is.

On the one hand I *need* to know, of course. Because whatever his response is, it will have certain... ramifications.

On the other hand, I don't want to know... Because it just could be not what I want to hear... >.> <.<


Do you do that, too? Not open a letter or mail, because you're unsure of what you'll find inside?

I know it's terribly silly - I have to open it *sometime*! But... but...

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ravensilver
Jun. 18th, 2010 11:13 am (UTC)
Ah... yeah, that would be one I'd be dancing around, too. >.< I hate when people try to convert me to *anything*.

*gg*

My SOL's oldest daughter is going to get married in August. Guess who got invited?

Walter and Cilli.

Guess who not?

Me.

*ggg*

I get the role of the *evil-has-abandoned-her-poor-suffering-husband-and-isn't-xtian* wife here... *laughs*
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ravensilver
Jun. 18th, 2010 11:51 am (UTC)
Wow! Those are really lovely! I'm glad you got to keep them! I'm sure they're quite an inspiration... all those colors! :)
ravensilver
Jun. 18th, 2010 11:53 am (UTC)
Pfft... they just can't reconcile the fact that Walter and I just don't have anything in common anymore and that it's much healthier when each of us lives his or her life as he or she wants to. In this manner we've managed to remain good friends and still handle all the important stuff (bank, house, daughter, legal stuff etc.) together.

For their narrow xtian view there's only:
- married and together
- not married and evil

*shrugs*

Their problem, not mine.
whispurr267
Jun. 18th, 2010 12:57 pm (UTC)
With mail not so much - it gets opened mostly the same day as I receive it.

Phone calls I have to make, now that's a different story. Usually it's because it involves telephone 'trees' and getting though a company's (or worse yet the government's phone system. I get so sick of those mechanical voices telling me information I don't want to finally be able to reach a person. Some places eliminate that option entirely now.

Plus, that one step is usually only a prelude to another phone call to someplace different, and then another, and another.

The plates look beautiful and the description says the tale is written in Russian on the back of each plate. Do they provide you with a translation?
ravensilver
Jun. 18th, 2010 01:41 pm (UTC)
I ignore both, if possible. Mostly if it's something that I'm really worried about. Not unpleasant, just existentially worried...

I hate those phone options where I have to press five different buttons and end up where I started - just because I want a simple answer to a simple question. >.<

Um... that part with the plates goes to Kracken... ^___^
whispurr267
Jun. 20th, 2010 12:33 am (UTC)
Ooops, sorry! I knew it was too early in the morning to start responding to posts.

Yep, the worry ones get me every time.
ravensilver
Jun. 20th, 2010 10:56 am (UTC)
*ggg*

Like me posting in the middle of the night... somehow things don't come out the way they should...

*sigh*

I could do with a lot less worry..
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ravensilver
Jun. 18th, 2010 01:42 pm (UTC)
Ah... then you know only *too* well how I feel!

*wibbles*
amarissia
Jun. 18th, 2010 02:52 pm (UTC)
Oh, constantly. CONSTANTLY.

And then sometimes my connection weirdly won't let me respond to certain emails, which is why I'm late responding to yours. I shall keep trying, but I think Sprint is trying to tear us apart. DAMN YOU SPRINT!

...
ravensilver
Jun. 18th, 2010 02:59 pm (UTC)
Oh, you, too!

Oh good! :) And I thought I was the only one. I hate when I do it, but sometimes I just can't convince myself to be... adultlike and responsible. *sigh*

Hm... *sporks Sprint! Give me my daily dose of Amarissia!*

*ggg*

I'm working on your fic. As usual it's trying to turn itself into an epic... 1107 words and I've barely started... *another sigh*

amarissia
Jun. 18th, 2010 03:58 pm (UTC)
Being adultlike is overrated. Necessary at times, but AGH I miss being little. I wish we could all be as carefree as Cloud.

Sprint finally gave in and let me respond. :)

FIC! YAYZ! Maybe you'll inspire me to write, I've been blocked for waaaay too long...
ravensilver
Jun. 18th, 2010 05:18 pm (UTC)
*gg*

I was talking to my therapist yesterday, and he was smiling all the time because I was more or less bouncing in the seat, telling him all about the fact that I'm writing again, and that the muse is back, and that I'm going to be putting two of my old books online as eBooks and so on... Then he said, it's good to have the Child!Self so happy and active, but Adult!Self should also be involved, so as to get all those things *done*! >.>

Good, good! I'll check my mailbox now - just got back from my Friday post-office and shopping run. :)

Yupp... gonna get right back to that.

Hm... I was re-reading a chapter from my new writing 'bible' - The Art of War for Writers: Fiction Writing Strategies, Tactics, and Exercises - and he says there in his chapter When you are stuck, call on a word and its cousins: "Sometimes you'll get stuck. When that happens, I use a pocket thesaurus. Say I'm writing about my character's background. I need to know what her father did for a living. I pull out my thesaurus, open to a page at random and take the first word my eyes fall upon. I read that word and all the synonyms. Ivariably, I get a web of pictures dn possibilities for whatever I'm looking for, in this case a profession for the father."

That works, you know... :)

What I also do when I'm *really* blocked is just start with a sentence. If nothing more comes, then ok. Maybe I'll have two the next day. And three the day after that.

But that little book there is really helpful - especially where problems like writer's block are concerned... :)
amarissia
Jun. 19th, 2010 06:55 pm (UTC)
:) My favorite therapist was always happy to see me acting young. She told me, because responsibility of taking care of my younger sisters fell on me at such a young age (parents were busy helping my older sister through illness), I had to be an adult then and essentially skipped the entire teenage experience, so I'm doing it now, in my twenties. Maybe I'll always be a decade behind. :)

Oooh, I'll give that a try...and try doing at least a sentence even if nothing else. I always feel bad when I stop after only a paragraph, but it all adds up, right? :)
ravensilver
Jun. 19th, 2010 08:23 pm (UTC)
Ah, I know all about that skipping the children phase. My mother was a working mother, so I had a lot of responsibilities around the house - among other things for my younger brother. So I never really got to go all out on the teenager phase. I guess I kind of got stuck in there somewhere. :)

Yes, 100 sentences make a story. And sometimes, all it needs is one. And suddenly it just flows. :)

Still working on the smexing story... :)
amarissia
Jun. 21st, 2010 01:15 am (UTC)
Maybe that's what makes the best fangirls, a bit of us that always stays children. :)

Oh, I miss the flow, I want it back! This week, definitely, I'll give it a try...

SMEXING! :)
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yanagi_wa
Jun. 18th, 2010 03:13 pm (UTC)
I don't any more. I figure, bite the bullet and do it. I'm also the type to just rip the bandaid off. Get the pain over quick. Hope it says what you need it to. *hugs*
ravensilver
Jun. 18th, 2010 05:21 pm (UTC)
I do that sometimes... but occasionally, there's something that I really worry about, deeply, miserably, and then I don't really want to know the answer. Like Merith says, if I don't know, it can't bug me...

I do eventually read the mail - after I've worked up the proper nerve for it. :)

It did. He just hasn't implemented it yet... >.> Which is... not good.
merith
Jun. 18th, 2010 03:34 pm (UTC)
I know that dance! Usually, if I know what the email might be about and I really don't want to tackle it right away, I will procrastinate even reading it. Kind of like, if I don't know what it contains, it can't bug me, can it?

Now-a-days, it's more emails from people asking how I'm doing... and no one takes "I'm doing fine." as an answer. I guess they expect me to be laid out in misery. Well, I guess I am in a way... bored half the day. ;)

The notices from my entry yesterday finally arrived in my in-box this morning.
ravensilver
Jun. 18th, 2010 05:25 pm (UTC)
Exactly, exactly! If I don't look, then it can't be anything bad, right? *gg*

Why should you be laid out in misery? So far everything is going well, isn't it? But boredom I can understand. What about getting all those things done that you've always relegated to the "one day..." shelf? :)

Now I'm getting them again, but first the old ones arrived all mixed up - new, old, answers before comments - really wierd...
lyssyface
Jun. 19th, 2010 07:09 am (UTC)
I'm somewhat familiar with those steps.

They go something like:
1) Stare at bolded email subject line.
2) Pretend this other email looks more interesting.
3) Leave the room to get a snack or coffee.
4) Come back and glare at the computer screen.
5) Spontaneously decide I need to clean out my entire inbox of spam and random emails and organize all my folders.
6) Back to staring at the bolded print....

Possibly repeat this sequence a few times until I brace myself and open it.
ravensilver
Jun. 19th, 2010 09:26 am (UTC)
Yes, that sounds *exactly* like me! :)

I do end up opening it at some point in time, but I really have to get up my courage to do so...

:fail:

*sigh*
lyssyface
Jun. 19th, 2010 10:07 am (UTC)
I do it occasionally and then have a moment of recklessness that never ends well and then go back to being anxious.

By the by, your anxious kitty looks about ready to esplode...
ravensilver
Jun. 19th, 2010 10:19 am (UTC)
Same here. It's when I let the moment of adult responsibility take me over that I do that. >.>

*gg*

It does, doesn't it?
lyssyface
Jun. 19th, 2010 10:28 am (UTC)
My moment of recklessness is quickly followed by the 'ohmigawd did i just do that?!' dance. It involves steps like 're-read email frantically' and 'I need a drink, NOW.'
ravensilver
Jun. 19th, 2010 10:30 am (UTC)
*gg*

I usually go and get a good cup of tea to fortify myself, then take the plunge.

And you know, it usually doesn't turn out as bad as I'd envisioned?

Very strange...
lyssyface
Jun. 19th, 2010 10:40 am (UTC)
Jasmine, lavender, and chamomile, that's my kind of 'drink'. Tea works better than alcohol for me too, go figure =P
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